Marriage Isn’t For You

Seth Adam Smith

Having been married only a year and a half, I’ve recently come to the conclusion that marriage isn’t for me.

Now before you start making assumptions, keep reading.

I met my wife in high school when we were 15 years old. We were friends for ten years until…until we decided no longer wanted to be just friends. 🙂 I strongly recommend that best friends fall in love. Good times will be had by all.

Nevertheless, falling in love with my best friend did not prevent me from having certain fears and anxieties about getting married. The nearer Kim and I approached the decision to marry, the more I was filled with a paralyzing fear. Was I ready? Was I making the right choice? Was Kim the right person to marry? Would she make me happy?

Then, one fateful night, I shared these thoughts and concerns with my dad.

Perhaps each…

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How to keep New Year’s Resolutions

Yes, we have a New Year. It’s 2014. Wohooo!!!

Now what?

Some of us are already well into those resolutions. But does a resolution really matter if we’re gonna drop it by February?

 

January 1^st – worked out!!!!!!!!

January 2^nd – worked out!!!!!

January 29^th – worked out.

February 7^th – had to meet Josh for ice-cream… will definitely do it tomorrow

February 15^th – did not…. I’m not even gonna give an excuse.

February 26^th – do I care?

March 1^st – apparently not.

 

A resolution should be a source of motivation, not something you avoid like that mean teacher from high school.

Here’s how to keep those resolutions:

1. Really Realistic

You’ll be doing this for the next three hundred and sixty five days. Every single day will NOT be perfect. You’re alarm clock might suddenly decide to take a day off or (hopefully) cute Josh might ask you out (or to take a vacation… or to marry him… wow, I’m getting carried off). My point is that it should be something that’ll fit into your daily routine.

Try not to take up more than half an hour for it.

2. Throw out the Impossible

Yes, some things are possibly impossible. Come on… you can’t divide 49 by 2 and still get a whole number as the answer!

So if you’ve included things like “Will lose weight in one month”, cross it out. Firstly too much weight loss in too little time is unhealthy. Secondly… how many of us will actually do it?!! (But no… don’t play with your health.)

You rule your resolutions. Don’t EVER make it the other way round.

3. Part of You

If you’ve planned to become a better person and have “Control Anger” and “Start Smiling”, you need to make it a part of you. Dedicating a specific amount of time for this kind of stuff isn’t exactly the height of practicability. Make your reactions to unfavorable circumstances (a certain annoying person) automatic. Actively think about it for about a month and you’ll be all set.

 

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I hope this helped you guys. If you have any suggestions for improvement in this article or an idea for another one, please do let me know.

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